I have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to cheaters but unless you’re sure that you guys can figure it out together and can talk about the whole issue tell them to piss off and never look back.
If you still want to be with this person the burden of restoring trust is on them and they better know it and take the time for it. Be open for conversation about the issue and don’t let things that really bother you go unsaid. I have a lot of friends who have been in this situation and are still in strong and loving relationships with their long term partners and managed to work it out.
Don’t feel responsible for your partner’s shitty choices and behavior that’s all on them, don’t let your mind convince you otherwise. The dumbass train only has room for one driver at a time and it isn’t you who crashed it.
the worst is having a dream where someone loves you and you can practically feel them touching you and it feels so real and then you wake up and it’s like the life is being sucked out of you and the happiness just drains out of your body and you feel empty again
the fact that over 300,000 other people know exactly what this feels like too is a source of great comfort
especially if it’s a kiss